With no substantial academic research on the topic, we asked our experts how women feel about beards during oral sex
Get Comfortable Before You Start
“Adding a pillow under the hips and butt can make cunnilingus easier for the giver and more pleasurable for the receiver,” says Hall.
Be Sure to Go Slow
“Tease it, make it beg for you to touch the clit,” suggests Vrangalova. “Most clits are different from most penises, they don’t like to be handled much until they get a bit aroused already.”
Hall recommends using the tip of your tongue and lips to tease the inner thighs and along the pelvic bone.
Start With the Hood
“Play with it over the clitoral hood instead,” says Vrangalova. “For many, the clit itself is too sensitive for direct stimulation. See how your partner responds, then try for the clitoris directly.”
Hall suggests you start light with a slow increase in pressure. “Using a flat tongue, slowly lick upward along the opening of the vagina, circling the clitoral hood,” she says.
Don’t Be Afraid to Experiment
Some vulva-owners like the licking motions more, some prefer sucking and others enjoy gentle biting or beard rubbing. To figure out which your partner prefers, Vrangalova recommends you experiment with different strokes and listen to your partner’s reactions. When you find a rhythm that works, stay consistent and do not change it too often.
Beware of Beard Burn
“Everyone is different, of course, but I’d say that a beard might be most of a negative issue when it’s a stubble because it can really scratch the vulvar area in an unpleasant way for many people,” suggests Vrangalova. “In those cases, try not to rub or grind your face hard against clit or vulva. Instead, gently rub the beard against the whole genital area.”
