Not all sex is penetrative sex, and introducing a strap-on into your play is absolutely not a must

Ready? Lick your way up and the down the labia. “At first, avoid direct contact with the clit because it may be too sensitive, and instead lick around it,” suggests Stubbs.

Now, have fun. Vary the pressure. Spell your name in cursive with your tongue (seriously, it works). Move your tongue in circles. Then move it side to side or up and down. As you experiment, pay attention to how your partner is reacting. And ask them what they like. “Do you prefer this or this?” or “Fast or slow?” When it starts to feel good, you’ll know. Read more